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Wednesday 15 February 2012

FLUSH ONCE IF YOU LOVE ME


Yes, it’s that time of a week for my favorite unbelievable news story…this time we find ourselves in a small village in India where a newlywed woman, Anita Narre (above), left her husband’s home shortly after their marriage in protest. Her issue? The house did not have a toilet. Yes, you read that right. Seems like a perfectly legitimate reason to annul a marriage to me.  In defense to the poor groom, he earned pittance, and I’m sure would’ve loved to have owned a toilet years ago, not to mention a bidet (I mean seriously, once you figure out how to use one, those things are ridiculously useful).

Lucky enough for the groom, the bride returned 8 days later (god I love this woman’s resolve) when he and some magnanimous villagers built a toilet for her. The fact that the article said, ‘built’ and not ‘installed’ seems a bit depressing to this Westerner, but then again, I can freely admit as a woman in a very privileged society that we are much more high maintenance and ridiculously spoiled.

Anita Narre's decision to take a stand was widely supported by aid groups and the local government. Apparently half a billion Indians still lack access to basic sanitation - half a billion. I’ll let that sink in for a moment. The government is not (totally) blind to the problem and has even initiated a new local law (in some States) that says that “people’s representatives are obliged to construct a flush toilet in their home within a year of their election;”[a move that aims to promote healthy sanitation I suppose]. Those who fail to do so are looking at the exit door. This sanitation drive has of course been highlighted by this one very brave woman’s fight to go to the toilet in the privacy of her own home.
And here we Westerners are bitching and moaning about our partners’ not putting the toilet seat down, or never picking up the toilet brush to clean the damn thing (honey, do you even know where the toilet brush is?). How about not even having one?? Now there would be a tension-making problem right there…“You want me to cook dinner?! Yeah, well, I have to hike a mile in the dark, freezing night just so I can go to the bathroom in private and who knows if I’ll even find a free bush to use! Make your own damn dinner!”

Stories like this not only make me incredibly thankful for what I do have – a porcelain bowl with actual plumbing – but shed light on those courageous women out there in all situations and circumstances, that say, we’re not going to take this anymore! We're with you Anita. Rock on with your courageous self...oh, and demand really soft toilet paper while you're at it.

Monday 13 February 2012

I WANT TO DANCE WITH SOMEBODY


This was going to be a Valentines post – we’ll save that until tomorrow. Since the unexpected passing of Whitney Houston, I thought I’d address that, or at least express how it’s made my mind run in all sorts of directions (did you expect anything less?).

First and foremost, I’ve always been amazed what a loss of a legend does to the human collective. Suddenly you find yourself talking about it with strangers at the bank, discussing a person neither of you knew but clearly their affect on the zeitgeist has been substantial and profound. You start thinking of all the songs you grew up on (depending on your age), learned to dance to, used to put on make-up to and get your drink on…[never a good mix as you end up with eyeshadow on your forehead]. Whatever the memory is, there is not a person out there that doesn’t have a memory to at least one Whitney Houston song, even if you are not into her music. I mean, let’s be honest, she had one of the best set of pipes going and could make her peers look like amateurs.

In addition, I don’t know about you, but when the legends start dying (in any arena of accomplishment), I start to feel my age more than I care to admit. I also find myself saying and thinking things that I know the generation before me has thought for years – 'dear god, who are we going to be left with? Justin Bieber?!' How is the King going to define good music?? [Will he believe me when I tell him that artists in my day used to sing live without the use of autotune?!] And you start to quickly realize that the musicians and actors with a reverence for their craft, not to mention mastery of it, are far and few between (no offense Justin, but you just don’t do it for me).

In the particular case of Whitney Houston, there is the inescapable truth that along with her prodigious talent, there was also a very turbulent life that went along with it. She’s human after all; unfortunately in her case, being a public figure meant that her demons were all on show. I suppose my overriding thought on the matter - after the sadness one feels for her family that she died so young - was that it's no secret that drugs were a factor in her life for a long time and it's hard not to think it’s a large shame that she wasted such an incredible talent on such a useless and fruitless past time – not that drugs are a past time, but I suppose they are for some. It makes you think that when it comes to hard drugs – and let’s throw in prescription meds with that, cause they are becoming the new heroin - there is really no upside. I mean, none whatsoever. You might as well take any talent you possess, all your relationships, peace of mind, looks, and money, for that matter, and throw them right out the window.

Of course as all of us can surmise by now, the entertainment industry is rife with the stuff. Whitney Houston was not a unique situation; she unfortunately could not quell the demons in time and eventually they aided in her untimely death (perhaps not in a direct way, as the autopsy is not in, but a multi-decade of use is going to wreak havoc on your mind/body/heart). I’ve often asked my father – being in the industry for over 50 years – why he never got into drugs – or more succinctly, how he avoided them. He would just look at me point blank and say that he just didn’t see the point or have the time for it. Singing meant more, and he wanted to sing, plain and simple. I'm sure there are a lot of people right now wishing that people with such a talent as Whitney Houston felt the same way.

So sadly, now we must say goodbye to yet another legend. And I will have to explain to the King all of those musicians and singers that came before and set the path for the rest to follow. Those like Whitney Houston that could sing the National Anthem effortlessly and send shivers up your spine. And I'm sure he will look at me, roll his eyes and go put on a Justin Bieber record....god help me.

RIP Ms. Houston. 


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